Q - I would like to share something with the group about manifestations and believing in your dreams. When I was a small child I was very poor, cold and sad but I used to make up images and dreams of my dream house to make me feel happy. I truly believed that one day I would be living in a beautiful house with a balcony and a sea view. Well many years later I moved across the world to Australia and I now live in that house with a view and three balconies and every day I am very grateful! So I want everyone to believe they too can have/ live their dreams! Anything is possible. - Alison, Australia
Dana's response: Thanks Alison, what a great story! It is so true, anything is possible.
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Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Where is my soulmate? Is my manifesting not working?
Q - I've been living a very solitary life lately, and it's one that I'm completely over!!! But no matter what I try, I just don't seem to be able to bring my 'new life' any closer. For me it feels like I'm in a holding pattern. I've meditated on it, journal daily on it, created a gratitude journal specifically for it, even learnt about writing 'soul prayers' (as Robert Ohotto puts it!!!), but nothing seems to change. Even when I realize I'm trying too hard and that the frustration is pulling me away from positive thoughts, I let go and allow fate to take its course.... still nothing happens!!!! In choosing to participate in your course, I wanted to learn more about manifestation, but its taught me so much more, its been a wonderful (and emotional) journey of self discovery. My only hope is that by the end of it, the universe will see that I am trying to put myself in the best possible position to receive this 'new life' I'm often told about, and finally, it will allow me the pleasure of having Divine Timing on my side!!! - Mandy, Australia
Dana's Response: In my experience, the Law of Attraction is real, but it is only a response to your Vibrational Reality which consists of so much more; old energies, hidden aspects, beliefs, higher plans, fears, soul cellular memory, inherited ancestral cellular memory, surrendering to your co-creators, divine timing etc -There are so many things involved in creating and manifesting, and it's to our benefit to be aware of as many of them as possible. Don't feel that you still have 'blocks' to uncover, or that there is something you are not getting. While it seems inconceivable to us, especially when we have a strong desire about something in particular, it may be that your soul actually wants the solitary experience you are now having, knowing it is not forever, or that even though you are ready, your future partner is not quite there yet.
If you have a strong feeling that there is a soulmate out there for you, there is. And yes, Diving Timing plays a big part. I remember a Yogi in India telling me that my soulmate was 4 years away at least. I was 26 and thought I was ready!! I remember thinking, there is no way I'm waiting that long!! Well, it was actually 8 years before the Divine brought Christian and I back together, I was 34. We had dated when I was 19/20 and never, ever, had it occurred to me that he would waltz back in my life, nor did I have any clue he'd turn out to be the one. There is a book by Arielle Ford, who finally met her soulmate in her 40's, called Hot Chocolate for the Soul: 101 Stories of Soulmates Re-Uniting. It reminds you that soulmates are always, always, re-united. I believe this more than ever in these times when everything is being turned right side up, finally. Also just because you aren't seeing anything happening, doesn't mean that 'nothing' is happening. Did you know that 98% of creation has happened before we see it manifest physically? Just know he is coming, believe he is coming, act as if he is coming, and in the meantime celebrate this time with yourself, knowing that you are nearing the end of your 'single' life, and that it is something to enjoy the last moments of. See yourself as if you are in your new life right now, just knowing that he who is right for you will come to you.
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Dana's Response: In my experience, the Law of Attraction is real, but it is only a response to your Vibrational Reality which consists of so much more; old energies, hidden aspects, beliefs, higher plans, fears, soul cellular memory, inherited ancestral cellular memory, surrendering to your co-creators, divine timing etc -There are so many things involved in creating and manifesting, and it's to our benefit to be aware of as many of them as possible. Don't feel that you still have 'blocks' to uncover, or that there is something you are not getting. While it seems inconceivable to us, especially when we have a strong desire about something in particular, it may be that your soul actually wants the solitary experience you are now having, knowing it is not forever, or that even though you are ready, your future partner is not quite there yet.
If you have a strong feeling that there is a soulmate out there for you, there is. And yes, Diving Timing plays a big part. I remember a Yogi in India telling me that my soulmate was 4 years away at least. I was 26 and thought I was ready!! I remember thinking, there is no way I'm waiting that long!! Well, it was actually 8 years before the Divine brought Christian and I back together, I was 34. We had dated when I was 19/20 and never, ever, had it occurred to me that he would waltz back in my life, nor did I have any clue he'd turn out to be the one. There is a book by Arielle Ford, who finally met her soulmate in her 40's, called Hot Chocolate for the Soul: 101 Stories of Soulmates Re-Uniting. It reminds you that soulmates are always, always, re-united. I believe this more than ever in these times when everything is being turned right side up, finally. Also just because you aren't seeing anything happening, doesn't mean that 'nothing' is happening. Did you know that 98% of creation has happened before we see it manifest physically? Just know he is coming, believe he is coming, act as if he is coming, and in the meantime celebrate this time with yourself, knowing that you are nearing the end of your 'single' life, and that it is something to enjoy the last moments of. See yourself as if you are in your new life right now, just knowing that he who is right for you will come to you.
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How do I know I'm on the right path?
Q - I liked the quote in your course "Your authentic self is the part of you going with the flow. Your ego is the part of you going against this flow, resisting with fear, doubt and worry...." This certainly epitomises the struggle to uncover the inner truth with self doubt. Perhaps you could talk about the signposts to make sure you pick up the right path, career, learning experience, dream. It seems too subtle so it is easy to miss or not trust the signs. I think there are ways to polish the antenna to increase the receptivity. Can you discuss the recipe for this too. Alice - Australia
Dana's response: The most important thing is to follow your feelings. As many of you know Christian and I spent 16 months travelling recently. We had such a strong feeling to pack everything up and go, even while financially we started out with enough funds for perhaps 5 months. Everyday felt wonderful, and abundance continued to flow when we needed it, and so we took that as a sign that we were on the right path. If it had ever stopped feeling wonderful, or if we found ourselves in dire straits financially with no response to our prayers, we would have taken that as a sign to head back to Sydney. We have definitely had moments of being with $0, and made very clear requests to the Universe, letting go of our ego's and outcome, praying: "If we are meant to keep travelling, show us the money! Otherwise we'll take it as a sign that we need to be in Sydney right now." The thought of ending the trip early felt really 'heavy', (when we left our pendulum swung to 15 months to indicate how long we'd be gone) it didn't feel right at all to cut the trip short, yet in our moment of prayer we would always allow for the knowing that the Creator and our Higher Selves knew better than we did as to where we were meant to be. Every single time, without exception, abundance has come in the large quantities we needed.
Following your feelings can also involve surrendering to a higher plan. I have shared the story in one of my recent Monthly Visions about how once I got into a Masters degree in London, yet every time I even thought about booking the plane ticket I got a 'heavy' feeling, as if my body was being forced to go where it didn't want to go. I knew this wasn't about fear of living over there, I had just come back from a year of living over there and absolutely loved it. I couldn't wait to get back! Yet my body completely tensed up at the thought of buying the planet ticket. So I kept postponing the degree, and eventually said to the Universe: "Okay, if I am not meant to go, if I am meant to stay here, show me why!" Soon after that various work opportunities opened up and about 6 months later I was re-united with Christian who I hadn't seen in 14 years. Always trust how your body feels about something.
Finally, let go of what other people think about you and your life. Thankfully we have a circle of incredibly supportive friends and family around us who all believe in following your dreams. Yet there are maybe one or two well-meaning 'old school' people who don't understand what we are doing or why, and thought we'd be better off in Sydney with 'real' jobs. The thought of that is so constricting and it wouldn't cross our mind to follow that advice, yet many people do follow advice like that taking on other people's fears and beliefs about life. Always remember that people only have the GPS and Soul Manual for their life, not yours. You are the only one who knows what is right for you. A combination of following your feelings, while also surrendering to your co-creator's - your higher self and the Creator - will always guide you in the right direction.
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Dana's response: The most important thing is to follow your feelings. As many of you know Christian and I spent 16 months travelling recently. We had such a strong feeling to pack everything up and go, even while financially we started out with enough funds for perhaps 5 months. Everyday felt wonderful, and abundance continued to flow when we needed it, and so we took that as a sign that we were on the right path. If it had ever stopped feeling wonderful, or if we found ourselves in dire straits financially with no response to our prayers, we would have taken that as a sign to head back to Sydney. We have definitely had moments of being with $0, and made very clear requests to the Universe, letting go of our ego's and outcome, praying: "If we are meant to keep travelling, show us the money! Otherwise we'll take it as a sign that we need to be in Sydney right now." The thought of ending the trip early felt really 'heavy', (when we left our pendulum swung to 15 months to indicate how long we'd be gone) it didn't feel right at all to cut the trip short, yet in our moment of prayer we would always allow for the knowing that the Creator and our Higher Selves knew better than we did as to where we were meant to be. Every single time, without exception, abundance has come in the large quantities we needed.
Following your feelings can also involve surrendering to a higher plan. I have shared the story in one of my recent Monthly Visions about how once I got into a Masters degree in London, yet every time I even thought about booking the plane ticket I got a 'heavy' feeling, as if my body was being forced to go where it didn't want to go. I knew this wasn't about fear of living over there, I had just come back from a year of living over there and absolutely loved it. I couldn't wait to get back! Yet my body completely tensed up at the thought of buying the planet ticket. So I kept postponing the degree, and eventually said to the Universe: "Okay, if I am not meant to go, if I am meant to stay here, show me why!" Soon after that various work opportunities opened up and about 6 months later I was re-united with Christian who I hadn't seen in 14 years. Always trust how your body feels about something.
Finally, let go of what other people think about you and your life. Thankfully we have a circle of incredibly supportive friends and family around us who all believe in following your dreams. Yet there are maybe one or two well-meaning 'old school' people who don't understand what we are doing or why, and thought we'd be better off in Sydney with 'real' jobs. The thought of that is so constricting and it wouldn't cross our mind to follow that advice, yet many people do follow advice like that taking on other people's fears and beliefs about life. Always remember that people only have the GPS and Soul Manual for their life, not yours. You are the only one who knows what is right for you. A combination of following your feelings, while also surrendering to your co-creator's - your higher self and the Creator - will always guide you in the right direction.
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I feel stuck, I think I'm in a cosmic static!
Q - I try to tune in to lots of guidance but can't get any clear feeling of what path I should take next. No signs like there should be. i think I am in a cosmic static. I don't want to always have difficult learning situations. Alice - Australia
Dana's response: A lot of people are experiencing a 'cosmic static' right now. As we jump from the old reality to the new not all of us jumps at the same time. So it is like some parts of us have jumped and landed, some parts are still in the old reality, and some have jumped and are flying through the air! Our new job, or relationship, or path can't fully be formed until all parts of us are ready and in place and so nearly everyone gets to the point where they feel in limbo, neither here nor there. This is a completely normal and natural part of the process. It won't last forever. The best thing to do if you are feeling no sense of which path to take is a) address any old beliefs or fears that may still be hanging on to the old reality as they cannot go with you to the new and b) have fun. This 'in between' state won't last forever and it is a perfect time to enjoy any downtime you have because you can be sure that a busier more full cycle is just up the road for you. So go to the beach, read a book, get a message, relax, stop 'trying' to move forward. Let it all go and just 'BE'.
The old reality was about learning the hard way (eg learning to step into your power after having to be abused or used first!). The new reality is about remembering who we are in joyful ways (eg stepping into our power because being in our power is who we really are). So no, you will not always have difficult learning situations and if you are still repeating difficult learning situations it is time to 'lift the needle' off that record. You don't have to learn that way anymore.
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Dana's response: A lot of people are experiencing a 'cosmic static' right now. As we jump from the old reality to the new not all of us jumps at the same time. So it is like some parts of us have jumped and landed, some parts are still in the old reality, and some have jumped and are flying through the air! Our new job, or relationship, or path can't fully be formed until all parts of us are ready and in place and so nearly everyone gets to the point where they feel in limbo, neither here nor there. This is a completely normal and natural part of the process. It won't last forever. The best thing to do if you are feeling no sense of which path to take is a) address any old beliefs or fears that may still be hanging on to the old reality as they cannot go with you to the new and b) have fun. This 'in between' state won't last forever and it is a perfect time to enjoy any downtime you have because you can be sure that a busier more full cycle is just up the road for you. So go to the beach, read a book, get a message, relax, stop 'trying' to move forward. Let it all go and just 'BE'.
The old reality was about learning the hard way (eg learning to step into your power after having to be abused or used first!). The new reality is about remembering who we are in joyful ways (eg stepping into our power because being in our power is who we really are). So no, you will not always have difficult learning situations and if you are still repeating difficult learning situations it is time to 'lift the needle' off that record. You don't have to learn that way anymore.
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What about when positive thinking does nothing to influence an outcome?
Q - I try to be aware of negative thoughts and create and attract abundance, however I seem to be going through a phase where certain situations around me that I am involved in but have little control over seem to be independent and resistant to positive influence. It is hard not to feel emotionally involved but I cannot change anything. I try to remain pleasant and beam love but it has no effect on the outcome. This seems to always occur with particular situations and people that have lots of triggers that create confusion no matter what you do. So how do you know the steps but nothing seems to influence the outcome? The closer the people are in the circle of relatives and family the harder it is not to feel a tug at the heart. Alice - Australia
Dana's response:
1) We cannot control the actions of other people. Relatives and family especially can push our buttons, and on a higher level that is one of the major reasons we chose to incarnate within a certain soul group. The buttons they push are aspects of our selves wanting to be strengthened, activated, brought to our attention etc. Anytime we are triggered by the actions of those around us, there is still something within us yet to be resolved. For example, if we have a critical sibling or parent the upset they cause us is letting us know that we are still allowing their thoughts and opinions about us to influence us more than we are allowing our own knowing about our own self to influence us. In certain extreme situations being constantly upset may be a sign that a particular person or relationship is not in alignment with you, and you may need to think about disconnecting from that relationship for a period of time, or permanently if appropriate.
2) When we think positively in order to create a positive outcome, it is important to realise that the best possible outcome is not always the outcome we had in mind. As I said above, sometimes a certain relationship is no longer in vibrational alignment with who we are, nor is it in alignment with where we are going. So the more 'positive' we are, the wider the gap becomes and the more difficult it is to be in that relationship. Tension may increase simply because it is like having two completely different radio signals trying to broadcast at the same time in the same room. Hence, if you are involved in a relationship that is currently existing on two different vibrational signals in order to have peace and harmony you either have to a) remove yourself for a period of time or b) both of you need to be conscious about the vibrational gap and try to understand where each other are coming from. In these changing times it will get increasingly harder to be involved in any relationship or situation where you are conscious and others are not.
3) Having a positive outlook isn't always for the purpose of changing the environment around you. It changes the way you see and perceive the environment around you, lessening the degree to which you are 'triggered' by things not in alignment with you.
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Dana's response:
1) We cannot control the actions of other people. Relatives and family especially can push our buttons, and on a higher level that is one of the major reasons we chose to incarnate within a certain soul group. The buttons they push are aspects of our selves wanting to be strengthened, activated, brought to our attention etc. Anytime we are triggered by the actions of those around us, there is still something within us yet to be resolved. For example, if we have a critical sibling or parent the upset they cause us is letting us know that we are still allowing their thoughts and opinions about us to influence us more than we are allowing our own knowing about our own self to influence us. In certain extreme situations being constantly upset may be a sign that a particular person or relationship is not in alignment with you, and you may need to think about disconnecting from that relationship for a period of time, or permanently if appropriate.
2) When we think positively in order to create a positive outcome, it is important to realise that the best possible outcome is not always the outcome we had in mind. As I said above, sometimes a certain relationship is no longer in vibrational alignment with who we are, nor is it in alignment with where we are going. So the more 'positive' we are, the wider the gap becomes and the more difficult it is to be in that relationship. Tension may increase simply because it is like having two completely different radio signals trying to broadcast at the same time in the same room. Hence, if you are involved in a relationship that is currently existing on two different vibrational signals in order to have peace and harmony you either have to a) remove yourself for a period of time or b) both of you need to be conscious about the vibrational gap and try to understand where each other are coming from. In these changing times it will get increasingly harder to be involved in any relationship or situation where you are conscious and others are not.
3) Having a positive outlook isn't always for the purpose of changing the environment around you. It changes the way you see and perceive the environment around you, lessening the degree to which you are 'triggered' by things not in alignment with you.
http://www.danamrkich.com/
When I ask for higher self guidance it feels like I'm making it up?
Q - I have been asking questions of my higher self and writing down the answers that I "get". I have no idea what I'm doing, but the writing just flows. It seems to come through more easily for me when I write. Of course, then I think, 'okay, this is all coming from my head, I am making it all up'. Whatever! Beautiful words of wisdom so full of compassion, support and love...who cares where it's coming from, right? Since I started doing these meditations I find myself having a dialogue in my head ongoing, throughout the day. I don't know who is talking, and often I feel I'm just talking to myself, but sometimes I feel really connected to something higher, more wise, more patient and kind. I'm not getting a very clear visual on my higher self. I have more of a sense of her, it is as if I can feel what it would be like to be more Her, even if only momentarily! - Stefania, USA
Dana's response: Writing is one of the best ways to connect with higher guidance, allowing insights and messages to flow through you, which is why I highly recommend daily journaling as an ongoing practice. There is something about writing that lets the mind get out of the way, allowing the soul and your innate wisdom to take over. I also say it's a way to check your emails from your higher self and guides, who otherwise have a hard time getting through to us with our daily mental chatter and general busy-ness. It is completely natural and normal to feel like you are making it up, simply because the info is coming from the exact same place our imagination comes from, the higher realms, a dimension that the logical mind can't quite understand. If the dialogue feels connected to something higher, more wise, more patient and kind then that is a good sign you are connected to your higher self and realms. Higher guidance always feel gentle and kind. It is the mind or ego that makes things up, usually feeling much more harsh and critical.
Don't worry too much about what your higher self looks like, it is her or his energy that you want to tap into, yes feeling what it would be like to embody more of that energy. Likewise don't worry too much about 'who' is talking when you do feel connected to higher guidance, be it during meditation or journaling. That is, we can get hung up on 'is this my higher self or guides or an angel?' when really the separation we know on this plane between individuals doesn't exist in the higher realms in quite the same way. Our higher self might answer one aspect of a question while our guides answer another aspect. Our guides often speak as, and are, a collective group, something that again is hard for the mind to grasp. Connection with your higher self and guides simply takes trust, trusting that you can open to divine guidance and trusting what comes. It sounds like you are already doing this, which is great! Just remember: higher guidance always feels good, comforting and positive, even when it means moving outside your familar comfort zones. If guidance doesn't feel right or good, ask that your higher self be with you immediately. Ask three times to be sure.
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Dana's response: Writing is one of the best ways to connect with higher guidance, allowing insights and messages to flow through you, which is why I highly recommend daily journaling as an ongoing practice. There is something about writing that lets the mind get out of the way, allowing the soul and your innate wisdom to take over. I also say it's a way to check your emails from your higher self and guides, who otherwise have a hard time getting through to us with our daily mental chatter and general busy-ness. It is completely natural and normal to feel like you are making it up, simply because the info is coming from the exact same place our imagination comes from, the higher realms, a dimension that the logical mind can't quite understand. If the dialogue feels connected to something higher, more wise, more patient and kind then that is a good sign you are connected to your higher self and realms. Higher guidance always feel gentle and kind. It is the mind or ego that makes things up, usually feeling much more harsh and critical.
Don't worry too much about what your higher self looks like, it is her or his energy that you want to tap into, yes feeling what it would be like to embody more of that energy. Likewise don't worry too much about 'who' is talking when you do feel connected to higher guidance, be it during meditation or journaling. That is, we can get hung up on 'is this my higher self or guides or an angel?' when really the separation we know on this plane between individuals doesn't exist in the higher realms in quite the same way. Our higher self might answer one aspect of a question while our guides answer another aspect. Our guides often speak as, and are, a collective group, something that again is hard for the mind to grasp. Connection with your higher self and guides simply takes trust, trusting that you can open to divine guidance and trusting what comes. It sounds like you are already doing this, which is great! Just remember: higher guidance always feels good, comforting and positive, even when it means moving outside your familar comfort zones. If guidance doesn't feel right or good, ask that your higher self be with you immediately. Ask three times to be sure.
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Does aligning with a desired reality mean denying actual reality?
Q. I find (aligning with your desired vibrational reality) tricky, because it feels like denial of current physical reality? - Sam, Australia
Dana's Response: It is often hard for people to visualise and feel a reality that isn't in their physical reality, because they feel they are denying their actual reality. However the acts of feeling or visualising what we want is not about denying 'actual reality'. It is about realising that our 'actual' reality is a much, much greater reality than our five senses can perceive, and that our current physical reality is only a small part of this reality. So rather than having one foot in one reality and the other foot in another reality (which implies there are 2 separate realities), a better way to think about it is to paraphrase the old parable about the three blind men who were asked to describe what an elephant looks like. One held his trunk and said an elephant is like a snake! The other patted his side and said 'It is like a wall'. The other held its tusk and said 'It is sharp like a sword'. None could see the whole elephant, thus the whole truth, the whole reality. So too, our physical reality is like the trunk or tusk of an elephant, meanwhile our whole reality is part of us too, albeit not visible to our physical eyes.
Our physical reality is just a result of the past content that has been filtering through our greater, vibrational reality, and if we want to change our physical reality the most powerful thing we can do is change our vibrational reality. It is no use manifesting anything on the physical if we haven't created it clearly on the spiritual, mental and emotional levels first because our creation will tend to either collapse or be created on a foundation not based on our authentic, aligned energy. So really, the physical shows us the results of our manifesting, but our actual manifesting happens on the non-physical planes. This will inevitably lead to a question about action: When our non-physical aspects are in alignment with our authentic being, then our actions are a natural, inspired progression of that alignment and are an enjoyable part of our life. When our non-physical aspects are not in alignment with our authentic being, our actions will usually feel like a lot of hard work and tend to not get us where we want to go, or get us there the hard way. We have been taught that 'hard work' gets us what we want, and that money won't just come out of thin air. My life experience has shown me that this is not true, and that 'magical living' is our divine birthright and something we all have a right to remember.
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Dana's Response: It is often hard for people to visualise and feel a reality that isn't in their physical reality, because they feel they are denying their actual reality. However the acts of feeling or visualising what we want is not about denying 'actual reality'. It is about realising that our 'actual' reality is a much, much greater reality than our five senses can perceive, and that our current physical reality is only a small part of this reality. So rather than having one foot in one reality and the other foot in another reality (which implies there are 2 separate realities), a better way to think about it is to paraphrase the old parable about the three blind men who were asked to describe what an elephant looks like. One held his trunk and said an elephant is like a snake! The other patted his side and said 'It is like a wall'. The other held its tusk and said 'It is sharp like a sword'. None could see the whole elephant, thus the whole truth, the whole reality. So too, our physical reality is like the trunk or tusk of an elephant, meanwhile our whole reality is part of us too, albeit not visible to our physical eyes.
Our physical reality is just a result of the past content that has been filtering through our greater, vibrational reality, and if we want to change our physical reality the most powerful thing we can do is change our vibrational reality. It is no use manifesting anything on the physical if we haven't created it clearly on the spiritual, mental and emotional levels first because our creation will tend to either collapse or be created on a foundation not based on our authentic, aligned energy. So really, the physical shows us the results of our manifesting, but our actual manifesting happens on the non-physical planes. This will inevitably lead to a question about action: When our non-physical aspects are in alignment with our authentic being, then our actions are a natural, inspired progression of that alignment and are an enjoyable part of our life. When our non-physical aspects are not in alignment with our authentic being, our actions will usually feel like a lot of hard work and tend to not get us where we want to go, or get us there the hard way. We have been taught that 'hard work' gets us what we want, and that money won't just come out of thin air. My life experience has shown me that this is not true, and that 'magical living' is our divine birthright and something we all have a right to remember.
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